True You Men’s Group
Stop Managing Yourself. Reclaim Your True Self.
The True You Men’s Group helps men use the IFS model to understand the protective strategies they have mistaken for who they are, so they can reclaim the authentic self beneath self-management and live with more confidence, connection, and choice.
Many men work hard to be good partners. They try to show up, fix problems, and hold it together. And yet, they still feel unseen, unappreciated, and like nothing they do is ever enough. Over time, it can start to feel confusing, discouraging, and lonely — especially when they don’t have a place to talk honestly about what they’re carrying.
Alongside that loneliness, many men carry a quiet mix of fear and anger. Fear of letting anyone see their hurt. Fear of being seen as weak or not enough. It often feels easier to show anger or to withdraw, resigning themselves to tolerate disconnection and feeling unimportant. All while feeling overwhelmed by the pressure of taking care of everyone else.
Over time, men in this group begin to experience more clarity and confidence. They start to understand themselves better, give themselves permission to feel what they feel, and realize they’re not alone in these struggles. The group is a no-judgment zone. Men feel safe enough to tell the truth about what’s really going on for them, and to hear other men do the same. That kind of honesty is encouraging. It grows courage. The courage to be real.
As men feel more solid inside, it begins to show in their relationships. They’re more relaxed. They experience more choice. They’re less reactive and less driven by the need to prove themselves. Partners often respond to this grounded confidence. Conversations change. Dynamics soften. Men no longer feel like they’re living at the effect of their partner’s moods or expectations.
What makes it hard for many men to accept help is the belief that needing support means weakness. In truth, reaching for support takes courage and wisdom. If you’re ready to become the man you know you’re capable of being, join the True You Men’s Group — a brotherhood of authentic men.
“Bill’s guidance helped me gain a powerful, felt understanding of my parts. The spotlight sessions were transformative, and even observing others gave me deep insight into my own system. This work has been invaluable.”
Aaron W.
What is IFS?
IFS is a compassionate approach that helps men become curious about what happens inside them instead of trying to control, criticize, or manage themselves. Through this lens, the ways a man performs, withdraws, pleases, overworks, controls, hides, or tries to look fine can be understood as protective strategies. These strategies may have helped him earlier in life, but over time they can interfere with confidence, connection, honesty, and freedom. In this group, men learn to understand those strategies without shame and begin reconnecting with the authentic Self beneath them.
Who is this group for?
This group is for men between 35 and 65 who are ready for change and willing to do the work. They may be functioning well on the outside while feeling disconnected, uninspired, isolated, sensitive to criticism, dissatisfied with work, or unsure how to form meaningful connections with other men. They may recognize that there is more to life than self-management and that the strategies they have used to earn approval, avoid rejection, or appear capable are no longer working. This group is for men who are open to being coached, willing to be vulnerable and honest, and ready to take responsibility for their internal experience.
Group Coaching Fees
Three 90-Minute Group Sessions Per Month
$800 Intial deposit pays for your first three months
$300 per month after your initial commitment
“If you’re ready to stop just getting by and start living fully as your authentic Self, let’s talk.
Book a 20-minute clarity call with me today, and we’ll dive into how you can begin your journey of true recovery.”
Frequently Asked Questions
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To help men recover their authentic selves. To do this, I introduce participants to the IFS model and to help them:
Understand the IFS model
Recognize the influence of their parts
Detect and unblend from parts
Learn to speak for parts rather from them
Learn how to go inside to develop relationships with their parts
All of this will help the participant develop Self-leadership which, in the IFS model is the path to authenticity and so much more.
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After a lifetime of survival strategies designed to get love, approval, and appreciation, Self-leadership will develop as participants gradually let go of these personnas and enjoy the emergence of their authentic selves.
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When your focus is primarily on your external world, the circumstances of life are in control of your inner state. By learning to direct your conscious attention inwardly you will focus on what is responsible for your experience. The IFS model helps participants focus inside on the parts that influence their thoughts, emotions, and actions. The IFS model is a compassionate approach that helps us befriend, help, and form alliances with parts so they can do what they do best - help us live our lives. Parts that get stuck in the past provide ineffective and problematic help because they are reacting to what happened in the past and are unable to respond in ways that reflect current reality. They unintentionally recreate the past until they become unburdened and updated. Once this happens, our parts can partner with us in the present moment to help us live as the best and highest versions of ourselves. The True You Men’s Group helps participants begin this journey of healing and personal development.
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Each session is 90-minutes long. Groups meet most weeks at on the same day and time and meet three times a month (coach will post schedule at least 30 days in advance). Participants agree to confidentiality and other safety protocols which make it possible to experience the discomfort of trying something different.
Sessions begin with a guided internal check-in followed by a one or two minute external check-in.
The bulk of the session is spent in discussion, exploration, and learning.
Sessions begin and end on time.
Sessions end with “takeaways”
There is no required homework but participants are provided with articles and exercises that will support their experience.
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Participants who are in active addiction are not appropriate for this group. If you’re not sure, let’s talk.
Each participant is asked to have a 20 minute conversation with me to determine readiness and fit for the group experience.
This is a men-only group.
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The initial commitment is for three months. Participants are asked to provide 30-days notice if the intend to exit the group.
The initial cost is $800 for the first three months. After that, clients prepay for each month by the first day of the month at $300 per month.
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Group sessions are on Zoom. Groups will remain open to new participants until the group size reaches 8.
